Coral Amber: Dating Mad Libs

I recently tried to start dating again. My first real date was a while ago with a guy who seemed very nice and funny, much to my relief. We had a good date (with fun, laughter, and some appropriate arm touching) and got along great.

At the end of the date we hugged goodbye and I said something like, "I'll see you later." He replied with one of his standard phrases, "I hope so." So I stop getting into my car, turn to him and say "Don't hope. If you want to see me again, call me and ask me out on a date."

He says something along the lines of: I will, there will definately be another date.

I took that as a good sign. Gee, how could I not?

When I got home, he was online so I said I got home alright and thanked him again for the date. He replied with a nice "Your Welcome" and then we both said good night.

Yeah, can you guess where this is going yet? He didn't call. He didn't email. He never IMed me again and was only online in away mode or he would pop on and then dissapear...

Some of my friends said he didn't call because I was probably bitchy or mean to him (who me?). Others said that's just how guys are, but I don't buy that. In any event, I feel like the guy should have the guts to tell me how he feels one way or another. I have a real problem with people who don't say what they mean.

I was mad after about 5 days, after a week I turned more zen. I mean, I obviously don't want to date a guy who can't follow through on a simple phone call. So I was checking my email and I see that although the little smiley next to his email address indicates he is online, my chat program does not... So, being the confrontational type girl that I am, I write him an email. Here it is:

Hey [name witheld to protect the jerky],
Since it's been two weeks since our date I wanted to let you know again that I had a nice time and thought you were great. I also wanted to let you know that there are way cooler ways of blowing me off that don't include hiding from me every time you jump online. Letting me know that you don't want to go out again is really ok. It's really easy too! All you have to do is call, email, IM, or text me with an appropriate message.

Sample message: "Hey, It was cool meeting you, but I don't think you're the one for me. Thanks for taking the time to meet me and good luck."

You could even do it mad libs style: "Hey, It was ______ (adjective) meeting you, but ______________ (excuse). Thanks for __________ (something) and ________ (parting words).

Sample message: "Hey, It was only slightly creepy meeting you, but I hope to never see your ugly face again. Thanks for not killing me and stuffing me behind some wall and I've filed a restraining order."

See how easy and fun it can be?! I hope in the future you can man up and let a woman know how you feel right away. It is the kind, polite, gentlemanly, and right thing to do. Ask any girl you know.
Sincerely,
Coral

I know I should have just written him off, but I figure maybe he'll be nicer to the next girl.